After reading about gender-bias and conversation dominance in the classroom, I asked for a peer to observe a physics class I was teaching and keep track of the discussion time I was giving to various students along with their race and gender. In this exercise, I knew I was being observed and I was trying to be extra careful to equally represent all students―but I STILL gave a disproportionate amount of discussion time to the white male students in my classroom (controlling for the overall distribution of genders and races in the class). I was shocked. It felt like I was giving a disproportionate amount of time to my white female and non-white students.
Even when I was explicitly trying, I still failed to have the discussion participants fairly represent the population of the students in my classroom.
This is a well-studied phenomena and it’s called listener bias. We are socialized to think women talk more than they actually do. Listener bias results in most people thinking that women are ‘hogging the floor’ even when men are dominating.—
Stop interrupting me: gender, conversation dominance and listener bias, by Jessica Kirkpatrick from Women In Astronomy
Implicit bias is a thing, just like privilege. Calling it out isn’t meant to shame anyone, but to alert us to step it up and improve ourselves so everyone can have a voice. Be conscious of what you and others are saying, and know when not to speak.
One of the greatest tragedies to me is when parents come to eat lunch with their kids at school and stay on their phone the entire time. It breaks my heart every. single. time.
I just want parents to know that the best, most valuable gift they can give to their kids is the gift of their complete 100% undivided time. They need it more than most parents realize.
You seriously just hit home for me. I tell my mother this all. the. time. My dad passed away a little over a year ago, and my 10 year old brother isn’t taking it well. Seeing them at the dinner table with her on the phone (texting or facebook…clearly not important) and him just sitting there eating quietly. It pisses me off. That’s how I know that when I’m a teacher, my students will get my undivided attention every. single. opportunity. that I have to give them, because they don’t all get that at home.
It's that easy.
- Me: The only tone I want to hear along with the word "gay" in this classroom is pride. If you use it as a joke or as an insult you might as well start walking yourself to the door, close it behind you, and wait for my one-on-one lesson that I promise, you will never forget.
- *Bell Rings* *Class is Dismissed* *Student Lingers*
- Student: Miss I just want to say that I really appreciate you not letting everyone use "gay" that way.
- Me: I appreciate YOU.
- It's that easy guys. Really. It's that easy.